June 24, 2004

sorry, can't think of a catchy title right now

I survived my night alone with the kids, though it wasn’t without marks- Rosalyn got a hold of a green felt tip pen, in the end- the tip of her nose was green as well as many part of my face. It was fun, I love spending tie with the kids- they are awesome little people. I missed their mom a bit though, I guess that is good since I’m married to her and all. I am glad that she was able to get out on her own- we try to make it a point to allow one another time with our friends, it is one of the secrets of our success in marriage. That and never go to bed angry are probably the top two.

So I’ve been a little under the weather the last few days, Kelly made me stay at home yesterday and I needed it. I slept until about 3:30pm, that is after a full nights sleep. I think everyone should periodically sleep the day away. Not only do you have the strangest dreams, but it forces you to slowdown a bit and rest, something most people don’t do enough of.

I’m looking at some of the various costs associated with starting up the company. Dang it is expensive, there is just no love for the small guy anymore. Oh well, life goes on and I’ve never let small things get in my way before, so I won’t this time. Money is a small thing. don’t let anyone tell you different.

I really enjoy reading Mark Cuban’s weblog (the owner of the Dallas Maverick’s for those not in the know). One of his posts is titled: Rules of Success. #1: Sweat Equity is the best equity! Makes sense to me, he is someone who I would like to follow in example as far as business success goes. Not that I want to own my own NBA franchise (though I wouldn’t complain if that happened) but Mark’s success is the result of following simple business rules and working hard. I like that and I like knowing that the potential results of that are endless.

We have 4 avocado’s left. The sale ends today, we need to get more.

June 22, 2004

one more thing

Kelly has a girls night out with her sister so I have the kids tonight, all by my lonesome. Rumor has it that Ros hasn't napped- you would be amazed at everything a two and a half year old can do on their second wind. please pray for my survival.

rain, cancer, money and beer...the perfect post (not really)

I can’t believe the amount of rain that is falling, this morning as I drove to work I noticed that it was only 68°, for the second day of summer that is very cool for Texas. I’m not complaining, a few years ago about the same time we were breaking record with consecutive days above 100.

Avocados are 5 for a $, so far this week we’ve eaten 6. we have 9 left and we might go back and get a few more before the sale is over.

Have I mentioned that I like avocados and guacamole?

We got word back from the hospital this week on how long Kelly will have to be away from the kids when she undergoes radiation in July, it looks like it is going to be 2 weeks. Close to a week in the hospital with no contact other than with people in space suits, then when she is able to come home, the kids will have to be gone for the remainder of the 2 weeks from the time the radiation started. Cancer, and often the treatment of it really sucks sometimes. Though the alternative is much worse.

I’m very grateful for Kelly’s stepmom and dad, they will take the kids for us and I know that they will be ok with them- I never imagined how difficult it was to allow someone else to watch your child until I had my own…I don’t always think I’m the best qualified person to watch them, much less someone else, but with Eanie and Pe-paw (as Rosalyn likes to call them) I know that they love my children more than life itself and that they will take care of them.

It was so different 8 years ago when Kelly first had cancer and we went through all of this stuff. We were young, stupid and in many ways it seemed like a bad dream and not reality. Now that we are older (and hopefully wiser) the reality is there, for me, the kids have a lot to do with that.

One advantage we have is we know what to expect, we know some precautions to take- the first time around there were many problems that resulted from side effects of the treatment and recovery- at one point Kelly probably should have had a blood transfusion, though the Dr. told us that if she pumped up the iron intake she would be able to avert that, she did and was able to get her blood counts back up but then that caused another problem. The cycle seemed endless, all in all, I think it took Kelly about two and a half years to fully recover and not have some sort of medical malady troubling her.

This time we hope, pray and believe that we can avoid much of the trouble we experience 8 or so years ago. The funny thing is that it seems that often Dr.’s know about the problems and some of the things you can do to avoid it, but won’t act on it unless you prompt them. Now I don’t think that they are out to see you suffer, rather I think this is a result of the current state of medicine and the habit of fixing symptoms rather than addressing the issues but that is another post altogether.

The good news is that Kelly’s cancer is treatable and we will get through it.

In other news- the business, though it has been put on hold for some time, I’ve been doing little things here and there and yesterday we took a giant step forward. I’ve taken a loan out against myself for some operating capital and to covering startup costs. The loan is actually against my 401k, but I figure it is my money, and I’m young enough that it isn’t going to negatively impact my retirement account. All interest I pay goes to my 401k- it is a great deal, the only negative point is that if my investments perform better than the interest rate that I’m paying, I’ll miss out on some cash. I’m not too worried about that though- my hope is that the investment in the biz will make way for an even bigger return. It looks like our first production run will hopefully be in late August, early September.

It’s been about 2 weeks since I bottled my beer- there is carbonation and no off flavors…looks like I dodged a bullet and the extra months in the fermentor weren’t too bad for it.

June 21, 2004

Asleep In The Light by Keith Green

Do you see, do you see
All the people sinking down
Don't you care, don't you care
Are you gonna let them drown

How can you be do numb
Not to care if they come
You close your eyes
And pretend the job's done

"oh bless me lore, bless me lord"
You know it's all i ever hear
No one aches, no one hurts
No one even sheds one tear

But he cries, he weeps, he bleeds
And he cares for you needs
And you just lay back
And keep soaking it in
Oh can't you see it's such a sin

'cause he brings people to you door
And you turn them away
As you smile and say
"god bless you, be at peace"
And all heaven just weeps
'cause jesus came to you door
You've left him out on the streets

Open up open up
And give yourself away
You see the need, you hear the cries
So how can you delay

God's calling and you're the one
But like jonah you run
He's told you to speak
But you keep holding it in
Of can't you see it's such a sin

The world is sleeping in the dark
That the church just can't fight
'cause it's asleep in the light
How can you be so dead
When you've been so well fed
Jesus rose from the grave
And you, you can't even get out of bed

Oh, jesus rose from the dead
Come on get out of your bed

How can you be so numb
Not to care if they come
You close your eyes
And pretend the job's done
You close your eyes
And pretend the job's done

Don't close your eyes
Don't pretend the jobs done
"come away, come away, come away with me my love
Come away, come away, come away with me my love"


Taken from an email I sent to a friend this morning:

if you get a moment please pray for a family in our church, a single mom and her four year old son.

...a bit of background. back in February we received a phone call from a a friend, Tabitha, who volunteers with us in the youth group. a friend of Tabitha has a son but wasn't married- she and the dad were trying to figure stuff out but he had struggled with addictions to various drugs. Tabitha called because the father of the child had OD on heroin and was in a comma and needed prayer. She also wanted someone to spend time with the family at the hospital if possible. we got a hold of our pastor who spent the day with the family and the guy passed away that night. Kelly has wanted to get to know the now single mom, she lives relatively close to us and she and Tabitha have been trying to figure out a time for the three of them to get together.

fast-forward to yesterday, after church yesterday, we headed up to the youth room to say hi to a couple of kids that were still hanging out. while we were up there I recognized a four year old boy, who I had spent some time with when Kelly and I had nursery duty, and his mom. I thought it was strange that the dad wasn't around it was father's day after all. He was someone I had seen around the church a couple of times, I had felt like I needed to get to know him better. I thought about asking the mom where the dad was but I didn't. In the car on the way home Kelly told me that the mom was Tabitha's friend. the dad was the guy who had OD. I lost it. I've held that little boy, I've talked to that guy. God had prompted me to get to know him and now he is gone. I found some Keith Green last night as I went through some old CD's, asleep in the light is how I feel right now.

June 18, 2004

father's day...early

I called Kelly this afternoon as I often do, what she told me next made my heart melt. Rosalyn is totally into Cinderella. She watches it at least once a day, today as she was watching it, and reading along with her Cinderella book (I told you she was into it), Kelly and Rosalyn had a dialogue which is the best fathers day gift I could ever get

Kelly: “are you going to marry a prince some day?”

Rosalyn: “yes!”

Kelly: “is he going to find your shoe?”

Rosalyn: “My daddy is going to find my shoe”

Kelly: “so you want to marry someone just like your daddy?”

Rosalyn: “yes, daddy is my prince and I want to marry someone just like him”



That was a pretty deep conversation for a two and a half year old, I think. My hope has always been that I would be able to set an example for my children, that they would want the relationship that Kelly and I have replicated in their own marriages when they get older. so far so good. I like knowing that I’m my little girl’s prince, I plan on being her prince until the moment I tell the congregation that I’m the person giving her away the day she gets married to whatever guy can not only pass my tests, but prove to her that he is worthy of her love.

Noah is getting less and less like a baby each day and is entering the toddler phase too fast, yesterday at the mall, in the elevator he said hi to a lady standing near, he also bopped his head back, much like Joey from friends when he says “how’s it going?”. I taught him the head thing, I didn’t think that he’d start using it so soon though.

I hope you have a good weekend, tonight I head to the ellum that is deep, to watch one of my favorite bands, not called common. And to hang out with some great friends. Remember that God is a Father to the fatherless, and that He can heal all that needs to be healed. Call you father and tell him you love him this weekend too.

June 17, 2004

it hurts

My heart is broken today- I spoke with the sibling of a student who was in my youth group and is now in college. Let’s call her “A”. It seems that life for A hasn’t been all that great recently. She grew up in a good home, loving parents, good kids- the American dream. Seems though that A is dealing with something that most kids have to deal with in the 18-20something age group, that being parents who don’t want to let go and are too controlling. I know this family pretty well, and while I disagree with some of the things the parents do (sometimes many things) I know them enough that they do it out of love, no matter how misguided it can be. A’s reaction to it all hasn’t been the best, a friend of hers actually approached the siblings out of concern. Being the approachable youth leader I am, a couple of the siblings talked to me last night at church. A is away at college, her family has a no tolerance policy with alcohol and I think she recently turned 21, guess what happened.

I don’t know all the details, nor do I want to know. I know this…I would like to take a baseball bat to the back of the head of the bastard that took advantage of that young lady, whom I’ve watched go from a little teenybopper to a young adult.

Again, my heart is broken, I’m not a girl nor have I ever been sexually abused, so I can’t begin to understand the pain associated with being taken advantage of in a situation like this. I do have close friends who have been abused, the pain I have seen them go through, the things they have shared with me have caused me to have great compassion for victims of abuse, and I have lost any tolerance I would have for the predators that cause the pain.

I was holding Rosalyn as we spoke about A last night, I tried to imagine how our relationship will be when she is older and leaves the house. I hope that Kelly and I have a close enough relationship with the kids that they would speak up if we were driving them to hide stuff from us. I also hope that my actions don’t make alcohol taboo and thrilling for my kids to experiment with and lastly I hope I can raise my children so that they are responsible enough that they minimize their risks of being taken advantage of.

As the conversation with the concerned siblings came to a close, I asked that they tell A that Kelly and I love her, and miss her and would like to see her. The next time I see A I’m going to give her a big hug and tell her that I love her. I know that I can’t fix all the pain, but I know that love conquers all.

June 14, 2004

Oops

With the changes I made to the layout here, I had inadvertently saved my posts this weekend as drafts, that has been taken care of and life can go on.

Hope you like the changes; at the very least I hope the changes don’t affect you negatively.

June 13, 2004

summer is here

Kelly's parents are heading out of town next week so we went over to celebrate father's day early with them. Noah swam for the first time, a bit scary since he kept wanting to put his mouth underwater while continuing to breathe. Rosalyn is close to swimming on her own a bit, Kelly's step mom picked up one of those swimsuits with the foam inserts to help with floating, she had a blast. Ros was a bit shaken up from our previous swimming adventure where she swallowed a good amount of water, she came close today but was much more cautious than she was a couple of weeks ago.

we used the trip to the parents house as an opportunity to bomb the house, bomb as in bug killer that is- in the last week some ants decided our house was a nice place to stay and I've found that living in Texas- active bug control is needed. we had to sit in the van for about half an hour while the house aired out when we got home, that is always a fun time. I learned tonight that I can hold my breath and open widows in two rooms before I need another breath.

June 12, 2004

I'm afraid of my backyard

I let daisy (my dog) outback this afternoon as I often do. This time as she trotted back to the porch area to let me know she was ready to come back in, she jumped back almost looking scared. I went to the back door to see what was wrong and there it was- a copperhead just inches from my back door. I hate snakes, I really hate snakes that can kill me or my family or pets. Not knowing if my dog was going to try to kill it herself, which I’m sure she would do if she thought the kids were in danger, she’s cool like that, I scrambled to figure out what o do. Rosalyn went into her high-chair, Noah in his walker, both secured away incase the snake came inside in our impending battle. Next I needed a weapon, I own a gun, though it is a pistol and isn’t the best for this type of fight, as far as firearms go a shotgun would be ideal- I found a very long 2by4. with that in hand, the kids in a safe place I proceeded to open the door hoping to be able to ambush my advisory and end the battle quickly. It turned toward me, not something I really wanted, so I closed the door, Daisy approached to get my back, I waived her off but she had distracted the snake for long enough, I opened the door again and **WHACK** I crushed it, well I did my best, it moved into some tall grass adjacent to my patio and slithered off…Daisy ran in and neither of us were hurt.

With all the rain we’ve had recently, the grass in my back yard got pretty tall- the perfect place for snakes to hide, when Kelly got home I mowed it. No more surprise visits from Mr. Pit Viper.

Between the snakes, fire ants, spiders and other various venomous wildlife that likes to use my backyard as their habitat I guess I will have to stop mowing my lawn barefoot.

June 11, 2004

a day of mourning

Today while driving to work, as I listened to talk radio like I each morning I found myself crying as I listened to the silence of Reagan’s coffin being taken from the capitol.

Ronald Wilson Reagan was the first President I remember. I knew who Jimmy Carter was but Ronnie was my first president. I remember the Hostages being freed. I remember the assassination attempt, though it would be years before I understood what it meant. I remember the bombing of Lebanon. I remember Just Say No. I remember the jokes, the hatred that the people around me had for him. And I remember that Ronnie reminded me of my grandpa, and that I decided that they were probably good friends. As I got older, as I studied politics more and started forming my own views on things independently, I started respecting Ronald Reagan. Not only for being our President, but also for being the Governor of my birth state.

As I reflect on his life, I respect him more and more. His humor, his faith, his belief in people, his unwavering principle, his understanding of image and his love of people are things that make him so great to me. We have lost a great man.

The news of Ray Charles passing has saddened me too. His ability to effect the masses with only his voice, piano and smile is something that I will miss greatly.


The death of these two men has left a void in the world, it is time for the younger generation to step up and pick up the trail where these great men left off.


here are two links of audio from Ronnie, he had such a great sense of humor. the first was a joke- he was testing the mic before his weekly radio address and didn't realize it was live. the second was Ronnie talking about when he got shot. enjoy

bomb

shot




June 10, 2004

yadda, yadda, yadda

we were suppose to have an event titled movie under the stars with the youth last night, but since it was raining we brought the screen inside- still Princess Bride is one of the greatest movies ever and can be enjoyed under the stars and in a youth room equally.

Though Kelly and I stayed way too late for Noah and Ros, by the time we got home our little angel was misbehaving and refused to go to bed, I even had to spank her. Kelly had only heard part of what had happened, though being the great wife she is she didn’t object till we had some alone time- after I had told her what all had happened, Kelly agrees that a spanking was called for.

I never realized how important a spouse that was on the same page as I am was until I found myself married, with kids I don’t see how it could work at all. Not having a good model myself, since my parents divorced when I was a baby and all their relationships afterward were lacking at best, I’ve made it a point to seek out good examples and have exerted a bunch of energy to overcome my shortcomings in the relationship department so I don’t make the same mistakes my parents made. in no way am I perfect, but so far I believe I’ve been successful and I owe it all to God and the work he has done in my life.


An interesting idea was brought up in youth last night before we had the movie, the Teaching was from John 14, in that chapter Jesus states that those that know Him will do greater things than He did. Jesus fed thousands of people with a couple of loaves of bread and some fish, what would happen if a youth group decided to only buy 1 pizza for an event that they were expecting a couple hundred pizza loving teenagers to show up to. What would happen if they were all fed??

June 9, 2004

summer anyone?

June in dallas has been strange so far, the temp has mostly been in the 70’s and we’ve had either thunderstorms or rain every day it seems, I’m not complaining though- I’m not the biggest fan of 90 degree weather.

The kids continue to grow, Yesterday Noah learned how to drink through a straw, and Rosalyn is enchanted by the magic of Disney, I think she’s watched Cinderella twice a day every day for the last week.

Over the weekend I finally got around to bottling some beer I brewed a couple of months back- I should have bottled it a long time ago but life doesn’t always workout that way…I was hoping that the beer would still be ok despite my ignoring it and it seems like it complied, I even tested one the other night to see if carbonation had started, which was my biggest fear actually, and it had. I have beer, or will have it in a couple of weeks once it finishes carbonating.

That is all for now, I found some great Reagan sound clips the other day, I’ll post a link to those sometime soon. Hope your day is great!

June 4, 2004

i'm mad

Yesterday a person who has admitted to molesting 40 children, David Wayne Jones, was released from jail and is now in a half-way house in Dallas. The last time he was released it only took him 2 weeks to break the rules of his parole and he was shipped back to jail. Yesterday’s release was caused by a judge let him go on a technicality.

As a father I am having a difficult time trusting that my children are safe from predators that seek to harm them. There is a convicted child molester living about a block away from our house. Last summer, another convicted child molester opened a sno-cone stand across the street from the city park in our small Dallas suburban town. They are all around and I don’t trust that they aren’t a threat. The percentage of repeat sexual offenders, particularly those who molest children is extremely too high. Our process of punishing them doesn’t work. And, regretfully, I feel the only way to ensure that a sexual predator will not strike again is to either lock them up forever or cause them to stop breathing. How many lives have to be ruined by these sick bastards before the system changes??? I’m not an advocate of vigilantism but things like this make me close to it.

The state of Texas has a website that lists all the sex offenders who are living outside the confines of jail. I have memorized the faces of those who live near me, if I ever see them near my house or children I will do what I need to do to keep my family safe. These are the times that I’m glad for the second amendment.

That brings me to my next issue, I try to keep track of how people find my site, as mentioned previously many people find this little piece of the net by searching for weight watchers points and pei wei (a local restaurant). Though a majority of people who visit this site are friends, then there are the people come here because they saw a link on someone else’s blog and occasionally from my signature at relevant. Then there are the random, strange and sometimes outright sick searches that are done on a search engine. I guess as I continue to write and there are more and more words to choose from the possibility of finding this site through an unrelated word search increases. My frustration is those people who are searching for porn- not just your ‘naked chicks’ search, but some pretty strange and demented requests are made. And their numbers are increasing. In the past it was one here, another there. Now they are more frequent, and one search in particular got my blood boiling because it was clear the person was searching for child porn.

If you found this site while searching for porn, you will find none here- what I can give you is some advice though- STOP now. If it hasn’t already, the effects of pornography will ruin your life and the lives of many you care about around you. Nothing good can come of it, unless you stop and clean up your life. If you need help, send me an email and I will assist as best I can. If you don’t want to stop, then please leave- I have nothing for you.

June 2, 2004

tick, tick, tick, tick

yesterday was my birthday- i turned 29. one more year till I move into the 30's. wow.

for the extended weekend we tried to catch up on stuff around the house, we took a trip to the mall and we relaxed. you can see some pictures I took with my new (happy birthday to me) camera here.

there was an awesome thunderstorm last night, over 8,000 lightning strikes, an awesome lightshow for those who could watch safely, a not so fun time for those traveling in the wake of the storms wrath. This morning there were half a million people without power today as a result. wow. it was pretty intense for a few hours, there was no damage near us but it was a bit scary/intriguing a couple times I had to go outside, one time it was so intense I just stood still while the sky lit up and bolts of lightning flashed all around the sky. God is such the multimedia showoff.